MUSIC

MUSIC

 What is music?

Music is a soul companion for the human being that takes you on a ride of self-love and the enjoyment of passing time for yourself.

Today's topic is music one style questions what kind of music do you listen to well I'm a big fan of classical music it doesn't make me very popular with my children their taste in music is completely different and they always want to listen to their favourite rock bands do you play any instrumentsno I don't I've always wished I'd taken up a musical instrument I'd love to be able to play the guitar but I think I'm a bit tone-deaf so perhaps I'd find it hard have you got any hobbies or interests I'm really into live music and I often go to a lot of music festivals I think alive performance always sounds more exciting than the recorded version as long as the performers can sing in play well of course part-2 style tasks describe your favourite kind of music you should say what kind of music do you like when do you listen to it how does it change your mood music is a very important part of every human beings life I like all types of music but my favourite type of music is indian music I like to listen to sad Indian songs because I feel that I can relate to them my life has not worked according to the plan and I have been sad for the most part of my life so I think that those songs are made for me I like the Indian songs native language and the music and those songs are very good whenever I am very sad I play the songs so that I could feel better I know it seems weird but I kind of like it when a song is telling my story I also listen to sad songs whenI am driving a car and my time is spent in a very good manner I really like the songs in which the piano is played as a matter I also know how to play the piano cell I also play the same tunes on my own pianoas I told you earlier that if I am sad I listen to sad songs so that I could become sadder but when I am happy I do not listen to sad songs on the contrary I listen to happy songs which make me more happy so I would say that 10 songs make me more sad whereas the happy songs make me happier I recall a day when I was sad and my cousin turned on a rap song and it actually infuriated meand I went out of the room banging the door part three style questions do you think music is giving time goes on no quite the opposite in my opinion, music was a lot better back in the day, I love music from 60s and the 70s there are Myriad's of famous rock band of that time I really like and now a days almost every pop song sounds boring and dull to me where do you think people enjoy listening to music the most of you it all depends on a person it's for me, I enjoy listening to the music in my room where nobody can bother me but alot of my friends would prefer listening to the music while travelling in public transport this way their journey becomes more pleasant is it better to go to a live concert or listen to a CD I think that nothing compares to a live concert magical to be at a concert in a large group of people like you listening to the songs you know being played right infront of you it's empowering and completely unlike listening to recorded music do you like the same music as your parents well when I was a child I used to listen to the same music as my parents did probably that was because we were often driving in the same car and my parents always turned on some jazz on the radio so I thought I was fond of jazz but eventually I discovered other music genres and understood that I like rock music and techno much more than you.

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FAMILY

Do you ever wonder about how you turned out the way you are or why some adults are more uptight than others while others are fun and delightful as cliche as it sounds it all comes back to your childhood depending on the households we grew up in some of us may cringe at the thought while others may look starry-eyed as they grow nostalgic before we begin with this  We want to remind you that it's never too late to change your future even if certain past events put you in a stronger likelihood of outcomes here are eight ways your childhood affects your lifestyle one if your parents were highly strict you may grow up to be codependent Did you have an overbearing mother who picked out every outfit for you or an inflexible father who made you practice more sports instead of hanging out with your friends? Even if they mean well or believe that they're doing what's best for you, helicopter Parenting has harmful side effects a big one being that you're more likely to grow up Codependent as an adult you might rely on your partner to take care of the chores or have trouble adapting to work lifeToo if your parents have a broken marriage it changes your romantic demands it's like Pam said from the office when you're a kid, you assume your parents are soul mates, but Unfortunately, this isn't always the case divorce rates are skyrocketing in America now up to 40 to 50 percent of married couples moreLikely to end up in a divorce if your parents separated Especially if the event happened during your early childhood studies show that you're prone to having higher demands when it comes to romantic Relationships you may expect your partner to show a higher degree of moralityLoyalty and compassion so you can trust them better3 if your parents micromanage you you're more likely to develop depression Ok, we talked about codependencyBut depression is also a damaging side effect of authoritarian parentingWhen you grow up with parents who do all the decision-making for you?It makes you assume that you're not competent enough to problem-solve on your own instead of listening to you and nurturing you to learn from your mistakes they often force decisions onto you even ones that make you unhappy this can lead to feelings of worthlessness and low self-esteem which you into adulthood.manifesting into depression or if your parents watch TV with youWhen you were a toddler instead of reading to you it can suppress your communication skills We always see those commercials of mothers reading to their babies but this advertisement actually has value it turns out that if your parents expose you to more television as a toddler instead of flipping through books this can hinder your communication skills studies have shown that when a mother and child watch TV together The mother makes viewer comments to the child whereas if she reads to her child, it promotes the child to ask questions and a higher response rate from the other five if you copied your parents a lot. You're more likely to be open to other cultures did you often imitate your parents growing up? Even if the actions didn't always make sense? You knew that they had some sort of purpose researchers had an adult show a child how to open a box with sticks even though it's more practical to use their fingers when children imitate the behaviors of their parents they're more likely to adapt to cultural norms that's because cultural beliefs and customs may not always be seeing as Practical and can even be outdated but when the individual is open to learning them they also have the ability to be more culturally aware six if you were spanked as a child, you may become sneakier as an adult in some countries it is now illegal to spank your child because it's seen as physical abuse depending on the severity of spanking It has harmful side effects ranging from academic problems to health ones such as dying at a younger age of cancer heart diseases and respiratory diseases but did you know that you're also more prone to being a sneaky adult author Daniel pink states that trying to influence a child's behaviour by offering rewards and punishment does not always result in the desired behaviour. In fact, children who were spanked may work harder to avoid being punished7 if your parents have a drug or alcohol addiction you're susceptible to perfectionism Do you know someone who is serious has a good work ethic and is a bit of a perfectionist? Chances are they might have grown up being a parent to their own parents? When a child has parents who are alcoholics or drug addicts, they never had the opportunities to let loose in how fun instead they had to grow up faster than the other children and take care of household responsibilities on the other hand some children may adopt the habits of their parents which can manifest into depression anxiety and feelings of worthlessness8 if you have a close relationship with your father, you're more likely to enter healthier relationships we've all probably heard of the term daddy issues when someone grew up without a father around unfortunately research only continues to show it's true one study examined the quality of father-child relationships among three groups orphans children of divorced parents and children and stable families results showed that the children whether they were male or female with a close relationship with their father was more common than those who didn'tWhen we are able to love our parents and learn to be patient with them We are more likely to do the same for our romantic partners which of these points do you relate to? Did you know that your childhood can also affect your lifestyle?

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Relationships

   Relationships

How do we choose the people we fall in love with?

In the modern world,

under the ideology of 'Romanticism,' you're meant above all, to Trust Your Feelings! Love is a mutual ecstasy at finding a beautiful person, inside and out, with the rare capacity, to make us happy. The romantic attitude sounds warm and kind. Its originators certainly imagine that it would bring to an end the sort of unhappy relationships that resulted from the old ways of finding a partner; the arranged marriage! The only problem is that this call for us to trust our instincts has very often proved to be a disaster of its own. Respecting the special feelings we get around certain people in night-clubs or train stations; at parties or on websites and that romanticism so ably celebrated as art appears not to have led us to be any happier in our unions' Medieval couple shackled into marriage by two royal courts keen to preserve the sovereignty of a slice of ancestral land. Instinct has been little better than calculation in underwriting the quality of our love stories. There's another school of thought: this one influenced by psychotherapy which challenges the notion that trusting instinct invariably draws us to those who will make us happy. That's because the theory points out that we don't fail in love first and foremost with those who care for us in ideal ways we fall in love with those who care for us in familiar ways. And there might be, a big difference. Adult love is modelled on a template of love created in childhood. And is likely to be entwined with a range of problematic attractions that militate in key ways against our chances of growth and happiness, as adults. We may believe we are seeking happiness in love but what we are really after is familiarity we're looking to recreate within our adult relationships the very feelings we knew so well in childhood and which were rarely limited to just tenderness and care. The love many of us would've tasted early on was confused with other perhaps more destructive dynamic feelings of wanting to help an adult who is out of control or of being deprived of a parent's warmth. Or scared of his/her anger or of not feeling secure enough to communicate our trickier wishesHow logical then, that we should as adults find ourselves rejecting certain candidates not because they're wrong for us but because they're a little too rightIn a sense of seeming somehow excessively balanced, mature, understanding and reliable given that in our hearts such rightness feels foreign and unearned choose our partners wisely, we need to tease out how certain compulsions to suffering may be playing themselves out in our feelings of attraction. A useful starting place is to ask ourselves perhaps in the company of a large sheet of paper, a pen and a free afternoon what sort of people in the abstract put us off and what kinds excite us. To try to trace back qualities to the people who first loves us in childhood and to ask ourselves how much our impulses really are aligned with things that might make us happy we could stand to discover for example that slightly distant and sadistic people do always more interesting to us than the so-called 'nice' ones. That should make us stop and think. Our honestly described reactions are legacies they are revealing underlying assumptions we've acquired that what love for us can feel like. We may start to get a clearer picture that our vision of what we're looking for in another person might not be a specially good guide to our personal happiness. Examining our emotional histories we learn that we can't just be attracted to anyone we're limited in the types we have because of certain things that happened to us in our past. Even if we can't always radically shift these patterns it's useful to know that we're carrying a ball and chains can make us more careful of ourselves when we feel overwhelmed by a certainty that we've met the one after just a few minutes of chatting at the bar. Or when we're certain someone is just brawn or boring even though objectively, they do have a lot going for them. Ultimately, we stand to be liberated to love different people from our initial types, when we find that the qualities we liked and the ones we very much fear can be found in different constellations from those we encountered in the people who first thought us about affection long ago, in childhood we should strive to understand and in many ways, free ourselves from. 

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Seven Habits for Self-Love

   Seven Habits for Self-Love 

                  

we're going to learn about how to love yourself  

seven habits for self-love now let's  begin number one respect your boundaries  

do you know your limits when you're tired  overworked and unmotivated do you have the  self-discipline to say no to step away from your  work boundaries are difficult to preserve with  friends with work and with your bad habits you try  to set boundaries but it's easy to let yourself  slip imagine you've been working on a big project  you've poured hours and hours into your work but  no matter what you do the final product just never  feels good enough you keep tweaking and analyzing  and overthinking your work you doubt and criticize  yourself but at some point you just have to stop  at some point you have to step back and say you  know what I've done enough I did the best I could  do but I can't work anymore this is a boundary  that you set for yourself it's your responsibility  to recognize when you're pushing  yourself too hard and thinking too much  when you reach your limit it's also your  responsibility to give yourself a break  that's what it means to love and care for yourself  you respect your productivity but you also respect  your boundaries you are your own person with your  own work ethic and your own limits you may not  be able to do as much as someone else they may  have larger loftier limits than you do but that  doesn't make your boundaries any less important by  observing your boundaries you learn to respect and  understand what you're capable of and that creates  a sense of pride in what you've accomplished  set boundaries in every aspect of your life give  yourself minimums and maximums and listen to  what your mind and your body are telling you and  when you feel like enough's enough then forgive  yourself and step away from number two trust your  instincts your inner self is a powerful force  that you ignore far too often some people call  the inner self the gut or the voice in your  head whatever you call it your inner self is a  combination of your instincts your experiences  and your core values it's a raw representation  of who you are and what you want so most of the  time your inner self knows exactly what you  need to do but there's a catch your inner  self doesn't work unless you put faith in your  instincts many people struggle with indecision  they procrastinate their choices because they  just don't trust themselves to know what's right  you may rely on others to make decisions  for you all because you don't trust yourself  this deep distrust may stem from a deficit of  self-confidence and trust which psychologists call self-efficacy if you lack self-efficacy  you don't believe in your ability to decide  perform or succeed you can do all those things  and you can do them well but only if you have  faith in yourself like everything on this list  self-efficacy doesn't happen overnight it takes  a long time to trust yourself just like it takes  time to trust another person so get in the habit of using your instincts wear the clothes that jump  out at you make small snap decisions empower your  inner self and believe in your ability to lead  your life number three self-care routines do you  have a self-care routine when you hear the phrase  self-care you might think of cleaning grooming and  morning rituals but a self-care routine are any  combination of habits that help you feel calm  comfortable and happy in other words it's a ritual  that reminds you to enjoy the life you're living  these important rituals look different for each  and every person for creative types you might  feel happiest when you're inspired and free to  create you may populate your self-care routine  with artistic outlets and introspective silence  for people struggling with stress you might rely on  on your self-care routine to unravel the  tension in your everyday life you may fall  back on meditative or relaxing activities to keep  your mind at ease there's a self-care routine for  everyone each routine is unique to your lifestyle  your preferences and your goals it may take a bit  of trial and error but over time you'll find  a self-care routine that's personal to you  number four find your intention what is your  intention an intention is different from a goal or a dream your intention gives your actions  words and decisions a greater purpose or meaning  it's a guiding light that you'll use throughout  your entire life because people who live with  the intention with purpose and meaning are proud of  the life they lead but what does a purpose or  intention look like your purpose may be to make  the world a better place you might find meaning  by helping other people or creating something  from nothing whatever your intention is use that  intention to understand the direction your life is  headed are you choosing to fulfill your intention  did you make the world a better place today did  you help someone in need or create something new  as long as you fulfill your intention you  know that every day is valuable and well lived  so take a few minutes to set your intention  what drives you where do you find meaning it's  okay if you don't know for most people  their intentions are vague at first  it takes time practice and careful reflection to  discover what gives your life meaning so don't  worry if your intention isn't set in stone your  purpose may change dozens of times in your life  but as long as you're following your intention you  can love the person and the life you've created  number five need-based decisions can you control  your impulses most people are governed by a rash  emotional thinking they make their decisions on  the spot and they look back on those decisions  with frustration and regret but what does your  decision-making have to do with self-love often  times we struggle to love ourselves because  our identities are clouded by wants wishes and uncontrollable impulses you may feel like  you don't know who you are because your decisions  aren't really yours to practice self-love  prioritize your needs over your wants you may  want to buy a bigger tv you may crave an expensive  vacation but do you need either of those things  by framing your decisions in terms of need you  empower yourself to make good choices choices  that you can be proud of in the future not only is  this good for your bank account it's an important  source of personal growth when you make need-based  decisions your sense of self becomes stronger you  get a better understanding of who you are by  carefully analyzing what you need in your life  as your sense of self grows your  confidence and self-esteem will follow  you'll learn to stay true to yourself in difficult  moments when others might crumble and give in  it all starts with a few good choices suppress  your wants vices and negative patterns then look  deeper at the things that you need because you  may discover a strength you never knew you hadnumber six shrink your world is larger  than ever before social media exposes your life to  millions of friends fans and critics your devices  overwhelm you with alerts stories and updates  unrelated to you or your environment wherever you  go you're bogged down by the weight of the world  a burden too heavy for any one person to carry  that burden creates stress insecurity and fear  you may compare yourself to people living entirely  different lives you may try to impress people that  you'll never ever meet your life may be engulfed  by this demanding social network you may spend  so much time worrying about the outside world you  may neglect the life you're living when you start  neglecting yourself you forget how to love  and appreciate the person that you've become  so before you can love yourself you have  to pay attention to yourself you have to  prioritize yourself and listen to yourself to  do that you have to shrink your world you have  to make room for yourself in your own life right  now the outside world is attacking you from every  angle so there isn't much space for yourself to  practice self-love take a break from social media  spend less time worrying about solving the world's  problems and worry about solving your own don't  change yourself in fear of what people might  say change yourself because you want to grow  learn and improve in other words remove the  weight of the entire world from your shoulders  take a break from the lives of others and  focus on the life you're living right now number seven risky opportunities the grass will  always be greener if you spend your life waiting  for the perfect opportunity, you'll find yourself  just standing still because every opportunity has  challenges every chance requires risk  and every dream demands a leap of faith  so if you want to love yourself you must  believe in your ability to overcome obstacles  you must capitalize on opportunities not because  you're certain you'll find success but because you  think you can rise to the occasion in your life  one person will hold you back more than any other  and that person is you most of the time you're  the reason you run away you're the reason you make  excuses and you grow angry with yourself because  you know you could be doing better before you can  love yourself you have to become yourself don't  be afraid to become the person you want to be  empower yourself to do better practice  taking risks to seize the next opportunity  that comes your way even if it isn't perfect  because many opportunities only come once  if you don't take advantage of them now you may never have another. 

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