Attraction, Romance, and Love

Do you know about love? I think that it’s very important for a human being to love other people. In as much as we all have different types of Love, there are some which we find attractive, others not so attractive, but still others very beautiful. Love can be beautiful in many ways and it can become toxic when it doesn’t become an addiction like our habit of smoking or addiction.

As humans, we often feel insecure because we don't know ourselves and we don't know the next person who will enter this world with us. So, we try to make another person happy by giving them everything we’ve got. We even try to do that without worrying whether he/she’ll like it or not.

That is why attraction, romance and love should always stay intact.

Love does not exist on its own, rather it's something which exists between two people who are living life together. If there are any differences in personality in each partner then this Love cannot be called true love. But if both people are compatible with one another then we may call this love.

Some People Have More Than One Kind Of Love

To understand this better let me explain the difference between different kinds of love. The love we know as romantic Love is more romantic love than the love in which we can give the same level of affection to a friend rather than a loved one. These kinds of Love have different levels of intimacy and affection which people want, not just love.

Here is some example. You can learn about various kinds of true love, I am providing a simple explanation here.

There Are Different Levels Of Love In A Relationship

From my understanding, every relationship contains a different type of love. Here are some examples of the amount of love which each person has for their partner in relation to which category they belong to

They are in a loving relationship with each other and you are in a satisfying relationship with your partner. So, from this case, we can say that you have more intimate and emotional love for each other than in a satisfying relationship.

For Example: If you are in a deep-seated loving relationship with your partner then, you have almost at par love for him/her and you are satisfied with each other. As far as this category of love is concerned, you may call it this love.

Here is An Example From Which I Am Trying To Give Examples:

Your spouse who lives in your house does not support you financially. They give you less attention than you need which is love. Your mate who lives alone also does not give you money, love and attention. Hence, for that particular couple, it may not be really true love. They have love and affection only for getting away from each other while they themselves aren’t really ready to show it to each other. There are different kinds of love in them. That can be romantic love.

Romantic love is love, friendship and trust-based love which is a combination of those three types. This is what I mentioned above as romantic love.

Romance Love is the feeling of falling in love in this world with someone else and having that love for yourself. It consists of falling in love with someone you never met before in your lifetime. When you fall in love then you’d go through such stages:

You would get introduced to that someone.

You would see them in person and start seeing them.

You would meet your future partner and your love would change drastically.

Then the love and the dating would start.

They would start meeting others.

They would become friends again and start trying to get married to each other.

Then after some time, you would have to break up with the current partner. And there’re various reasons for breaking up. Because of whom, you are falling in love again, I would tell you.

Love and Friendship Are Very Similar Thing

Love is something which you can’t avoid falling in love with, whether for a long time or for a few years, or it may die down from heartbreak, disappointment, etc. As long as you do not follow love as a means of happiness, love can prove to be beautiful in the sense of great love but as a source of sorrow can be truly ugly. Hence, the best way to take from this bad thing is either to stop doing it completely or look for other alternative methods to solve this problem.

Let me give you an example. Two girls were going through a breakup for several years and that was the reason behind the breakup. One girl tried to solve the problem by moving to a new city where she could enjoy her newfound romance. The other girl decided to continue with the breakup and did nothing except stay in the place where she used to meet her ex-lover and started looking for another man.

Love in this scenario cannot work so well and I wouldn’t recommend it either.

On the Other Hand, Friendship Can Be Very Beautiful

Friends are amazing creatures in terms of finding the perfect match and bringing together a whole family for a common purpose. Friends can help the person involved in the relationship to develop personal qualities within their relationship. Friends also help in strengthening bonds as it helps increase mutual understanding for the sake of the two parties. Hence, if we talk about friendships as relationships, then friendship can help in making that bond stronger and not only stronger.

This makes you a friend or a brother to anyone. Let me give you a couple of examples.

Determine the main focus of love

In every relationship, there must be one focal point. You can choose between romantic love and friendship. Romantic love is more like love which gives you complete control over your life while friendship to share the burden of being responsible for each other. For such cases, friends may be the most appropriate option. With friends that will be able to share common goals and dreams. But as long as you don’t compromise with personal desires, then it’s time to move from romance love to friendship love.

In addition to romantic love, if you have to talk about real love then you can say that there are various forms of love available. You can even find out what love is in real life. Love can be full of heartbreak, passion, intimacy, honesty, gratitude, kindness, and many more. Whatever the form of love you feel in love you can feel it in all forms. Hence it’s important to know your emotions so that we can never lose that.

Love Is Not Just About Love But Also About Physical Appearance

When we come across our true love for someone we cannot feel love in any way apart from love itself. Our physical looks aren’t so important when we get the love for our partner, but rather love for them is. When we fall in love with another partner, we automatically assume that they are good-looking and sexy. If we have to know how attractive, handsome or beautiful he/she is physically then that is enough. However, we cannot know his/her character, his or her traits and even how reliable he or she is physical.

All beauty and good qualities cannot give us ultimate love. We can choose who and how we love. Sometimes we may be too attached to what the person is not just for love. Some other times we just want the love we feel for another. So no one is ever worth more than the other.

There Are Certain Things On Which We May Or May Not Belong

When we talk about love, we consider it an essential part of our relationships, but it shouldn’t ever be taken as completely true. Love doesn’t mean that you are in love with him/her every minute of every day. It can go beyond that aspect too.

Some parts are not essential to every person. We might not always be in a position to open the door of his/her heart to all of you, only some people would like to do so as well. And what’s important when dating another partner is the trustworthiness of the other person.

Love Should Always Remain Intimate Love

Love can be not just about falling in love with another person. Love takes care of being present even when one person isn’t around. So, the intimacy of love must always remain at the forefront. Love cannot turn into an obsession. Nowadays you can find online applications and apps as they allow you to connect with other people and know their thoughts and feelings.

But what can you learn from all the internet games, books, movies, and television shows? How to be around one another by sharing common interests, and understanding one another’s life. Most people today have changed their perspective on love to obsession and obsession. So it’s time for us to understand what love is and get rid of those who use dating as a ploy to make them fall in love with them.

Love is not always about having to spend a lot of time with our partner. At the end of the day, we come back home and start with our families. Therefore, it’s important to understand your loved ones and cherish them the way they deserve.

There are a certain number of things which are considered to be natural and healthy love. However, I’ve said many things on which the mind may tend to disagree or contradict as time passes by. Every day we learn certain lessons, I would advise.

The first lesson is that love isn’t just about romantic love, it is also real love, there are various varieties of love available in the world and love can sometimes be seen as a source of unhappiness and anguish in life.

The second lesson will teach us the third lesson which we might face now,