The Broken Marriage

This is one of my best friend's real stories, that has a broken marriage situation when she has been in this experimental situation, For almost three decades, I was married to a very good male. There is not much more you can say in terms of love than that. He was hardworking, kind, intelligent, and a dreamer. But now, after four years of marriage, he asked to get out of marriage, just because I did not want to stay at his house anymore. Now, we do not have a relationship.

We first met when we were eighteen years old. But we never got married. We do know each other now, some of us are friends, but not really. Even when we went to work together, we rarely got anything else other than the money. When they found our relationship was over, they made sure I left everything behind. And then again, I came back home as my husband and I have never found anything else.

When we decided to get divorced, we did not talk about this. We knew that it was time for me and my husband to leave their home and that we would be moving away from both of them. We moved away one month after that. So, they gave us the keys, so we can move away in two months.

I have been gone with our son, until today, almost eight years later when I am still missing him because I could not leave with him in the second year of our divorce. Not only that, but I also am unable to see him because I have to go through another breakup and have my own children to support. To add even more insult to injury, we have never had any problems with the way they treated us. They never tried to understand why we wanted to separate and come back together. My husband wants to ask for divorce now because I always told him that I wanted to stay.

This new man will take care of all my needs and I never realized that it took a lot of effort for me to come back to him and start seeing that he could not handle things and my son's life and the expectations from him that I had. After all these years of fighting, and sometimes betraying him, he seems nothing like him. Worse than usual. It has turned into a terrible process. Because of my marriage, they are trying to do something to break up me and my child from their home.

They are constantly going to court, talking about me and him. Trying to force me to move out of his house and keep my children. Not only that there have been multiple attempts to force me not to see my son, and the latest attempt to tell me to stop dating him. I would like to say that some of them were very convincing. I understand that if you were paying for something you should stick with your partner's choices. In fact, if I ever married a boy, I never wanted to have my children until I became old. I know that is not true for every couple. However, I will never change my mind and I will continue being there until I cannot go on and make decisions anymore. That is why this story is written. To give you the facts that are true and how our relationship ended and continues to get worse.

I have said earlier, that if I ever had the opportunity to marry a boy, I would do so. But if I ever went on, I did it. My ex-husband has never ever forced me to have children yet, after having his children and raising them for the last 15 years now. And of course, I have no regrets about marrying a kid. There is nothing wrong with me marrying a younger girl anymore. And, of course, we did not have children before then.

As soon as we began getting married, we started spending a lot of time together because we needed each other. This was great, but then as time passed, we drifted apart without communication.

The first few months after we fell in love, we stayed home alone. Then we visited some of his relatives in New York City. His mother and brother were supposed to come to visit us, but they never came.

I always did not expect us to continue living like this and the reason I think why marriage does not work is not that much different. At least, in many marriages, we find out there is another woman in these relationships now. Therefore, when we end a relationship, everyone moves on and tells us about the next person in their lives who was in our previous relationship. Of course, no one tells us what is working and what is not. But what we can do is to make sure we make some changes, which will help us make something beautiful out of our current situation to the best of our ability.

I still miss my son dearly. I miss his company as well. And he is here for me every day. If I could get him and my child out of this cycle, then I will never ever regret what I did, but unfortunately, he is dead. So, let me try to remind you of us. That with love, anything is possible. Nothing has changed after I decided to go on my own journey and do what I have dreamed for myself since I got married. Love is never enough to do anything. You need to be able to get what you want regardless of where you live in the world. It doesn't matter where you are or what you are surrounded by. Everything is the same. Just you; want. That is your story. How do you decide to change your story?

We should always remember. Every piece of advice given to us is based on different circumstances and situations. Always keep on going on the path you have chosen. Your way of thinking when it comes to your relationship is the key to finding happiness again. If you have decided the path you want to follow, keep in touch with them and don't change it. Never change it. Never start following someone else again, as if you have gotten used to it. Always strive to continue leading yourself. No matter where life takes you. Never stop pushing forward. A successful relationship starts with unconditional love. It will always remain that way. Never give something up if it may be difficult at the beginning. Life moves you through and this experience teaches you a lot. Do not fight that, keep fighting it. Also, be aware of what you will face at the end of the road. You need to embrace them, forgive them, and always find ways to reconcile your ways. These experiences teach us what it means to be humble. I have been there and it never gets easier after. Don't ever forget to always take the advice from those around you and always remember that forgiveness starts with love.