A bad workman always blames his tools

There are a lot of people that blame their tool, or would rather do some extra steps. When I am told something like this, or my name is mentioned in connection to a job, I just say that I don’t know the term for “tool”, because I have never used one to do anything until now.

There were four years ago when there was no internet. So at the time, a lot of us had to rely on other things like television or radio, so we could listen to music, watch TV shows, and talk about our daily life. In between, there was not much else, but I am talking about computers. Nowadays there is more than one laptop a person can use at the same time and you can also find many laptops with different features on the market.

We all have our own idea of what a “tool” is and why is it important. But, I will ask myself another question: did anyone use these tools before? And I have to answer why are these tools so important, even though there is nothing about them that requires the use of them at all.

I use tools every day and, in fact, I am talking here about two very big and powerful ones: Office 365 and YouTube (I will explain what those two tools mean later). These were the two major tools at the time.

I am talking about Microsoft Word, Microsoft Excel, Skype, Dropbox, etc. The list is endless, but these are the most common products. As a rule, people blame the tools at first and then move on to using other things. However, let me tell you about the case I had to hear.

Example 1: If someone tells you about how it would be better to learn how to make a website, then he probably doesn’t know what websites, how to create a website, or even how to start your own website from scratch. What does all this need to take place? This is the example I am talking about.

If you want to know all about website development, this is your opportunity. It looks easy enough. You just go to the website builder service and get everything you need. From choosing templates to building a website completely. Of course, there is a free trial period, and if there is something you love, pay monthly or yearly for additional features that are only available for 60 days. After that, you may get access to special bonuses.

The whole thing is pretty simple, but the problem comes in the way of communication, which seems to be not good when you try to share ideas and knowledge. Some communication platforms offer messaging apps, others allow messages, and others cannot communicate at all.

Let me describe what I want to write about now. First of all, I want to give you an idea about what I do. Then you can know how I am spending my days, with the help of my smartphone. Sometimes I like sharing short pieces of my life, but usually, I just upload a video and post it on YouTube. One more feature of my phone, it allows me to keep track of my thoughts, likes, and dislikes — not only through social media but also through emails in real-time mode.

I spend almost all my time on YouTube, but this should not be confused with watching movies and reading books. Let me tell you, with YouTube, you learn how to speak English as well. We are living in the 21st century where we can speak English almost every day. Here I am giving you an idea of what I spend my days with. After you have understood me, I will continue telling you my story and how it became possible for me to meet new friends and experience true friendship. I know this sounds boring, but it is possible to change this feeling by paying attention to what I am going through. Do the best you can.

Another benefit of this platform is that we are getting closer to other countries, with whom we communicate daily. Another amazing thing about it is that you can enjoy traveling. At least, you can choose whether to travel within your country or abroad. With it, you will be able to spend more time on your vacation. That means that you can plan adventure trips with colleagues, travel guides, and even cooking classes. More people are getting interested in traveling and I believe this trend will become constant soon.

One last thing that makes it worth knowing why we want to use tools

I was talking about software. Well, let me tell you why we use software and the main reason why we always blame the tools, the definition of it, and why we are not careful about them. Why?

Sometimes, we may lose our jobs, we may lose relationships, and we may not get good results in our jobs. People blame the tools because they think we are incompetent people.

This is the type of reason people never stop blaming the tools. Well, let me remind everyone of those examples. Are we still incompetent people? Probably, I can say yes, absolutely sure.

For example, let’s imagine that you want to open a website, but let’s say that you are unable to develop it. You are losing your job and you have to start working for yourself. No one has ever trained you, and you are not sure what you need to do. They blame the tools, and then you blame yourself for being incompetent.

People always blame the tools for everything, especially when they know nothing about them.

Why does it make sense to blame tools? There is more than one reason for it. First, we are often told that only professionals can make them perfect. Not educated professionals, but just experts. To be honest, these types of professions (like programmers, designers, marketers, doctors, and engineers) were once called such.

So let me clarify. Don’t we need experts in certain fields? Definitely. Yet, we need them so little, that we are satisfied with what we receive.

Let’s see how people blame something while they are unsure of themselves. For instance, if one day at school, you did not know a word. You asked your teacher to teach you a word. He replied, “Do you know the word?” and you answered, “No idea, I don’t know!”.

At school, it is normal practice to feel helpless every time and try to teach your students. How can you expect them to understand something that nobody knows?

This is why humans try to blame tools constantly. Maybe if we had to learn not to be incompetent, we would not be using the tools we do today.

Sometimes we just need to break down a task and understand its components to be perfectly competent and talented. Only this is why sometimes we want to blame the tools for what we are not capable of doing and what we do know how to do.

I am going to show you an example. Imagine that you want to run a business that offers medical services to patients with chronic illnesses. You want to provide quality care to those who are sick. The doctor calls you to schedule a consultation and asks that you come to him on a certain date.

You must meet the following criteria:

You are a physician and you are interested in this field.

Your skills are excellent. No other physician says this.

You are willing to work at least 40 hours a week.

You have a degree from any university.

Your educational background must be recognized and accredited by a hospital or organization. If you are already qualified, that is great. Please share it when it is your chance.

I have created a small sample of an appointment that you can simply copy and paste into your calendar. If it gets in your email inbox, please note that you are required to leave this link and it never expires I will respond to you the moment you receive it.

You are ready to get started with your medical training. Just click this link and wait for a few minutes or hours. Next thing you know, you are going to join us via Zoom, which is really nice!

Now, what do you say if after these 3 minutes you have arrived at the clinic of Dr. Jekyll or Mister Hyde?

I don’t exactly know. All I know is that I have already made a reservation for some patients. This is a fantastic opportunity to train yourself but you are not ready for it. It is important to get the time to prepare and prepare yourself for this. And I know this is not easy either.

So that’s why many people blame tools every time. Or, “What is the meaning of everything?”, which leads you to a totally dark world of information that you can only guess. 

What are the most stressful subjects?

According to my research, there are three main types or spheres of anxiety that affect our lives. I’ve identified them as a “sense of security,” emotional safety, social support, and self-actualization.

The first category includes being vulnerable, insecure, and fearful, where we always feel threatened in our life. Being uncertain is stressful and often causes panic attacks. Not only about the physical elements on this list such as uncertainty, but also about self-esteem, happiness, and other aspects of life. To us, this experience can sometimes take an enormous toll. We’re also insecure enough not to be able to live comfortably with ourselves. Therefore, we use stress to control our own lives from others around us. As we may have mentioned, this may be in a way of trying to control other people who are controlling us. For instance, if you’re constantly at your workplace and being told by someone that you’re not good at something, your job is more stressed than it already is if they didn’t notice and will tell you so. In order for a negative situation to become less stressful, we need to go through a process we usually don’t go through, which is learning from mistakes we made and being ready to fix them. A simple example would be knowing one’s weaknesses, and then being aware of them. This knowledge gives us room to improve over time. Thus, we learn about ourselves and the world around us.

There are several other ways in which we perceive and make sense of the things around us which can be affected by anxiety, especially because fear is a hormone of stress. When we’re afraid, we try to find reasons or explanations why we shouldn’t be afraid. It’s important for us all to understand and accept that fear is part of our personality and to understand it helps others understand too. In fact, fearing for something is an emotion when it comes to anxiety because, in reality, fear is just another feeling that we all feel at times. All feelings are just something we use to survive. So, fear is an inevitable part of everyone’s life, even though we need to try to manage it in a way that makes it enjoyable.

The second category identifies being secure enough that we aren’t worried about everything else except our friends and family, and sometimes our career, our relationships, and our finances. Usually, this type of anxiety feels easier to deal with and therefore, more manageable. We’re not afraid to speak up about things that we think matter and have to be trusted by others. These thoughts are important to us whether they hold some truth or have the potential to harm us or others, but it also keeps us motivated to continue to work hard and achieve what we want. We feel safe enough to put trust in those around us to carry out what needs to be done, which helps us become stronger together and stronger individually. We feel confident not to worry about the future, which provides us with the motivation to keep going regardless of setbacks. Our sense of security helps us to cope better with stress. Self-actualization is another area of interest, related to anxiety as it relates to personal growth or building new skills that would help us to reach those goals we want to reach. There’s nothing like having fun and succeeding in our careers or in finding the career paths we love, so the sense of self-actualization is vital. Everyone should do this to grow. If we can’t achieve this, then we’ll certainly struggle emotionally along with managing stress.

The last category consists of recognizing and addressing flaws in ourselves like procrastinating, blaming ourselves for others’ faults or errors, or putting off certain responsibilities. This area is crucial to finding strengths we know we had and becoming better physically and mentally, both physically and mentally. Because it makes us feel better about ourselves, we feel well-adjusted and less stressed. We don’t just allow worries to get in the way of self-care, but rather seek solutions and accountability for ourselves. By acknowledging all of the things you don’t feel you have or learning something new about yourself, we realize we’re growing. We’re opening ourselves up to growth in every aspect of our lives. We recognize that we’re still growing in many areas of life and start to strive to improve.

These two categories identify many aspects of anxiety in modern society and provide concrete examples of each. Although it may be challenging to define what anxiety is, we do see that people are often stressed because of their emotions related to life or other factors. Whether it’s going through a challenge in their professional fields, their personal lives, or dealing with other factors outside of our control, it’s important we stop stressing out at least once a day. This doesn’t mean we’re unhappy; rather we just recognize we have to make room for ourselves to focus on making things we love. 

Education and the careers

are an important element of the job life of today’s professionals. Of course, there is a lot of information that helps us in making this decision but we can also use some basic ideas to help us avoid mistakes and make a better decisions. If you want a new career, where do you need to start? There is not enough explanation of this question for sure so let’s try and clarify what education and careers there are.

What are Education and careers? – What is education and what does it mean to work? Are these terms even used in a real sense? Well, actually no! According to official sources like the American Institutes of Health (NIH), there were 479 million people who completed their college education worldwide in 2017! Moreover, only 24% of them hold bachelor’s degrees from two-year colleges and universities. Now that’s bad news for those who have to drop out of any school because of financial problems and other reasons. But let’s remember the word “education” in the first place: it means a set amount of knowledge which is usually formal and is not something that will be a part of your everyday job. That doesn’t mean that you get to be more knowledgeable than all those other employees.

In general, there are several types of education or education and all of them fit into specific jobs. Let’s list some main ones and see what kinds of courses they cover and where are mostly used nowadays:

Graduates degree: This type of degree is very similar to a PhD. In reality, you must complete a Master’s Degree and pass all necessary exams before getting to enter that field. You have to study full time until the end of the year. It is also called vocational education level or VET. After that, you can continue working as you are doing your Master's. Some countries also call this a graduate program and not just one as well.

Note that many of your university’s diplomas, Master’s degrees are often created by different universities but most of them follow this pattern. So, if there is a problem with your university, remember that its quality matters. Even though that is not easy to understand and sometimes quite hard to finish, it will definitely help you succeed. Also, you can always ask for some kind of assistance from experts like through online certificates or professional certification. This makes your whole life much easier.

Professional certifications: Professional qualifications are some form of academic qualification that is obtained mostly by employers. At a certain point to get your degree or certificate, you should go on coursework. Here, it is possible to choose a teacher, a supervisor, and a lecturer. Usually, you can find courses on various topics such as marketing management, health care, engineering… These courses cover not only your skills but also your professional qualities or interests. They help you gain experience and connections so that you stay ready for the following jobs. I personally would recommend these courses, especially for those who are thinking about starting a profession. A good mentor for beginners is someone who can give helpful advice.

Note: One might wonder when should they begin studying all the subjects. Yes, there is a variety of options to be studied and each subject has its own criteria. For example, business and marketing can be studied at higher levels than others. However, when your career moves to another country then you should expect to start learning something new every day.

Online classes: Online learning services are perfect to learn anything from anywhere anytime in the world. If you are looking for the best way to study these types of courses, there are lots of websites where students can get lessons from instructors around the clock. It is not just for students, it works for experienced teachers also too. With that said, you don’t need to be afraid to ask for help every single time. This way, you can never be alone in your studies anymore!

Note that online courses work for both personal and professional development which I mentioned above.

What are Examples of Career Fields? – Are there types of careers that are not related to fields like Medicine and Engineering? Well, let me tell you: yes! there are! Lots of industries and companies use engineers and doctors in their work as part of their workforce. Engineers can become surgeons, pharmacists, etc. Doctors are needed everywhere. All of those people work on tasks that include designing and building things, testing and analysis and many other tasks. In short, there are plenty of professions that are based on medical and engineering, but you may get confused to know which ones actually fit into your career and who should be involved in them. This article is trying to explain the basics of the process of choosing which professional path you should choose and the possibilities it offers. So, let us start explaining these types of careers.

Engineering: Engineering is a huge industry, where thousands of companies hire engineers to design and build everything. Every company requires them as a part of their team and every job description includes these positions. Engineers make complex equipment parts and components and also build the machines or robots themselves. That’s why they are called highly experienced professionals. Besides that, it is impossible to ignore that some of them are able to create great products and services and that’s why you hear many name companies like Ford Motors, IBM, Microsoft, Apple, Volvo, BMW, Sony, LG Corporation, Fujitsu and many others use them in their factories with great success. Note, that in each business sector engineers play an important role in order to produce quality products.

This particular profession requires high and varied education and training so that you can be a successful expert in it. Many companies offer engineering schools and even online programs to teach you everything you need to know to become a competent engineer. Most public colleges also take advantage of these opportunities. Not all educational institutions are available for online programs, but they're all of them. If you want to become an engineer in future, keep reading.

Healthcare: Healthcare is becoming a really powerful profession and as such, it is growing very fast and attracting a lot of talented people with lots of money on the market. There are lots of hospitals and clinics that employ healthcare specialists that do a large portion of the treatment and research work. Doctors and nurses are required everywhere. Your doctor may do surgeries, help you heal wounds with medicine, provide you with medicines, and even prescribe medicine for yourself.

Note: Of course, you do not need to study everything there is and also a lot of doctors who go against what you know works. It is only logical that when you have to know everything to become a specialist in something you start with a broad view of the field and then narrow down your focus. Be aware that not all doctors are equal and you will not always enjoy this profession. But with some exceptions, you will be happy if your doctor is ready to answer all of your questions. If there are none, it’s ok, but take all precautionary measures anyway. Never let health risks affect your career.

Engineer/Architecture: Another branch of engineering is Architectural Engineers. Although there are a few specialized professions in this area, they share many similarities and also a few differences between those two branches. Among them are many designers, engineers, geographers, interior designers and many others. Those professionals deal in developing structures, buildings, machines and many others. From the industrial perspective, here you will see engineers. Of course, you can learn much about these professionals and even use them for your work. Just consider Google’s use of AI, which is not surprising either because of the popularity and use of the technology itself; it is being used by millions of companies. Furthermore, some companies prefer using architecture engineers especially after talking with engineers and asking them if can you use them to build a product.

Healthcare: Medical experts are quite essential to life in human and animal medicine. Their work is critical in diagnosis, cure, and rehabilitation. Healthcare is one of such professions that demand huge amounts of expertise and knowledge and require proper training. Physicians help patients with all those complications that have nothing to do with the disease itself. They are responsible for giving all those medications to make you healthy again. Additionally, they also give you medication and surgical procedures. People who work as physicians can help you grow stronger physically, mentally and emotionally. Thus, it is not surprising that healthcare is heavily regulated and there are lots of laws controlling the career of physicians as well. Check the regulations and rules carefully.

Some professions in these industries are particularly hard so it’s not surprising that in the early days, people were struggling to join them. The same applies to the automotive industry as well. Lots of companies still think about changing vehicles constantly and you need to have good skills in that field. Today’s auto engineers are very expensive to acquire but it is worth noting that it is also difficult to obtain them at times when a car is not selling that easily. Yet, this area is growing very rapidly and you will be hearing lots of complaints about them.

You should note that the biggest difference between different sectors in this matter is the lack of jobs. It’s true that lots of organizations are already hiring skilled labourers but in most cases, they get stuck with low-skilled workers. Therefore it is extremely important (and extremely hard) to maintain your education level and your training. Otherwise, you cannot blame anyone and there may be situations when employers refuse to work with you because of your low skill. Try and find ways to improve your skills and apply for open positions that you are qualified for.

Finally, we should talk about occupations that are not directly related to industries like medicine and engineering. There are so many such ones and many industries. It is impossible to mention them all without. 

The Broken Marriage

We first met when we were eighteen years old. But we never got married. We do know each other now, some of us are friends, but not really. Even when we went to work together, we rarely got anything else other than the money. When they found our relationship was over, they made sure I left everything behind. And then again, I came back home as my husband and I have never found anything else.

When we decided to get divorced, we did not talk about this. We knew that it was time for me and my husband to leave their home and that we would be moving away from both of them. We moved away one month after that. So, they gave us the keys, so we can move away in two months.

I have been gone with our son, until today, almost eight years later when I am still missing him because I could not leave with him in the second year of our divorce. Not only that, but I also am unable to see him because I have to go through another breakup and have my own children to support. To add even more insult to injury, we have never had any problems with the way they treated us. They never tried to understand why we wanted to separate and come back together. My husband wants to ask for divorce now because I always told him that I wanted to stay.

This new man will take care of all my needs and I never realized that it took a lot of effort for me to come back to him and start seeing that he could not handle things and my son's life and the expectations from him that I had. After all these years of fighting, and sometimes betraying him, he seems nothing like him. Worse than usual. It has turned into a terrible process. Because of my marriage, they are trying to do something to break up me and my child from their home.

They are constantly going to court, talking about me and him. Trying to force me to move out of his house and keep my children. Not only that there have been multiple attempts to force me not to see my son, and the latest attempt to tell me to stop dating him. I would like to say that some of them were very convincing. I understand that if you were paying for something you should stick with your partner's choices. In fact, if I ever married a boy, I never wanted to have my children until I became old. I know that is not true for every couple. However, I will never change my mind and I will continue being there until I cannot go on and make decisions anymore. That is why this story is written. To give you the facts that are true and how our relationship ended and continues to get worse.

I have said earlier, that if I ever had the opportunity to marry a boy, I would do so. But if I ever went on, I did it. My ex-husband has never ever forced me to have children yet, after having his children and raising them for the last 15 years now. And of course, I have no regrets about marrying a kid. There is nothing wrong with me marrying a younger girl anymore. And, of course, we did not have children before then.

As soon as we began getting married, we started spending a lot of time together because we needed each other. This was great, but then as time passed, we drifted apart without communication.

The first few months after we fell in love, we stayed home alone. Then we visited some of his relatives in New York City. His mother and brother were supposed to come to visit us, but they never came.

I always did not expect us to continue living like this and the reason I think why marriage does not work is not that much different. At least, in many marriages, we find out there is another woman in these relationships now. Therefore, when we end a relationship, everyone moves on and tells us about the next person in their lives who was in our previous relationship. Of course, no one tells us what is working and what is not. But what we can do is to make sure we make some changes, which will help us make something beautiful out of our current situation to the best of our ability.

I still miss my son dearly. I miss his company as well. And he is here for me every day. If I could get him and my child out of this cycle, then I will never ever regret what I did, but unfortunately, he is dead. So, let me try to remind you of us. That with love, anything is possible. Nothing has changed after I decided to go on my own journey and do what I have dreamed for myself since I got married. Love is never enough to do anything. You need to be able to get what you want regardless of where you live in the world. It doesn't matter where you are or what you are surrounded by. Everything is the same. Just you; want. That is your story. How do you decide to change your story?

We should always remember. Every piece of advice given to us is based on different circumstances and situations. Always keep on going on the path you have chosen. Your way of thinking when it comes to your relationship is the key to finding happiness again. If you have decided the path you want to follow, keep in touch with them and don't change it. Never change it. Never start following someone else again, as if you have gotten used to it. Always strive to continue leading yourself. No matter where life takes you. Never stop pushing forward. A successful relationship starts with unconditional love. It will always remain that way. Never give something up if it may be difficult at the beginning. Life moves you through and this experience teaches you a lot. Do not fight that, keep fighting it. Also, be aware of what you will face at the end of the road. You need to embrace them, forgive them, and always find ways to reconcile your ways. These experiences teach us what it means to be humble. I have been there and it never gets easier after. Don't ever forget to always take the advice from those around you and always remember that forgiveness starts with love.